In this post series, I want to show you an easy six-step guide to reach the big dream you have in mind, that life changing goal that doesn't let you sleep at night. If your goal is to find your dream job, to buy a home, to be healthier, to travel around the world, to start a business or just to be happy, I am pretty confident that every step is a key to successfully reach those goals.
This is the fifth post in the How to reach your wildest dream series. In previous posts we talked about:
- why you need to find your WHY to reach that life changing goal;
- why it is so important to set up a deadline to achieve your goal;
- how to use daily affirmations to reach your wildest dream;
- how to write a master plan to make your dream come true.
Once you have created your master plan and drawn your timeline, the next step is sharing the plan with a goal-mentor. You must be thinking, what the heck is a goal-mentor? A goal-mentor is someone who will read your plan and can provide a third-party perspective. She/he will tell you if you are being unrealistic or if you are missing any important task. A goal-mentor will help you through the process of reaching your milestones and achieve your goal.
There are different types of goal-mentor. Sometimes your goal-mentor will only be there to ask you about your progress or to cheer you up when you feel you are not going anywhere with your goal (you know that this is likely to happen, right?). A pro goal-mentor will remind you of your WHY, and why you are doing all this sh*t every time you feel defeated. She/he can also help you to overcome any deviation in your master plan. Your goal-mentor can be your best friend, your mom, your husband, is your choice.
To be honest (and please best friend, mom, and hubby: don’t be mad at me) the problem with relatives is that they usually are not committed enough to your goal. They love you and they don’t want to chase you down. They don’t want to see you sad, so if you fail in any attempt of reaching your goal they may be telling you something like “Forget about that crazy idea of starting a business after your 40” or “Don’t worry, is just a goal, it doesn’t matter, move on with a different thing”.
Even in companies with a hierarchical structure, they assign employees a career mentor who is not working directly with you. A mentor can see the big picture, they can think out of the box when the mentees need help to get their heads out of their asses.
I have had many mentors in life:
- at college, to help me with the decision of changing from IT to marketing (which I didn’t, by the way);
- during pregnancy, to reach healthy habits;
- when my daughter was born, to achieve a huge goal: exclusive breastfeeding;
- during my earlier IT career (I married my mentor, but don’t tell anyone);
- when I moved to the US and started working in New York (to help me with my promotion goal).
All of them were and still are key in my success. That’s why I suggest that you find an external goal-mentor. You can find people willing to help in motivational groups and communities. You can also join our Facebook community and I will be more than happy to be your goal-mentor. Remember: you are capable of many things but sometimes we need someone to hold our hand during the journey.
In the next and last post of How to reach your wildest dream blog series, I will tell you how to track your progress and celebrate your victories to ensure you reach your life changing goal.
Have you ever had a goal-mentor? Tell me how it went in the comments.