In this post series, I want to show you an easy six-step guide to reach the big dream you have in mind, that life changing goal that doesn't let you sleep at night. If your goal is to find your dream job, to buy a home, to be healthier, to travel around the world, to start a business or just to be happy, I am pretty confident that every step is a key to successfully reach those goals.
This is the second post in How to reach your wildest dream blog series. In the previous post, I went through the reasons why you need to find your WHY to reach your goals. So at this point you should have a clear understanding of what is your big fish and why you want to go for it. Your why will help you through the process of reaching your goals, especially when the nights become darker and your comfort zone seems to disappear in front of your eyes. Now, it’s time to get your hands dirty and start doing actions. Let’s jump to the second step!
STEP 2 – Set a deadline
Have you asked yourself when do you want to achieve your goal? This is a tricky step. It is not when you think you can achieve it; it is about when it makes you the happiest person in the world.
Maybe you are thinking about starting a new business or start the school again. I can almost hear you crying: I am busy with the kids, I am too old, it is going to be too hard, I don’t know how long it will take because is too difficult. So you tell yourself to wait until the kids grow up, or wait for your husband to be less busy at work. Blah blah blah. You procrastinate yourself and avoid to set a deadline because you are scared. No no no.
Don’t make excuses, don’t let your fears slow you down! just fill the blank:
“I will be the happiest person in this world if I can reach my wildest dream by ____________”.
If possible use the YY/MM/DD format.
Seriously, just do it, write it down. Set a year, a month, and even a day as your goal’s deadline. Of course, try to set a day using some logic. Buying a house is not going to happen in 1 day even if you wish it so badly. So come back and set a deadline that at least sounds reasonable for you. You can fix on the go.
Why do you need to set a deadline if you still don’t know the steps to reach your goal?
Most people get lost in the process of reaching goals because they don’t set up their own deadlines at the very beginning. I was dreaming about moving my family to the US since my daughter born in 2008. But it wasn’t until that day, seated at the table, talking with my husband about leaving our country when the magic happened. We were evaluating the options and I asked him when are we going to do this? A lot of words came later and we asked ourselves “how long are we able to wait?”. We decided January 31, 2016 as the deadline. At that moment we didn’t have a plan to move our family abroad. We just have the desire firing us up (go to step 1 if you don’t feel the fire). By December 2015 I was boarding the freaking plane in the middle of winter.
Setting the deadline pushed me to do what I needed to do to make my dream come true and to shine! We are going to talk about how to write a plan in Step 4 – Write a master plan and timeline.
I must confess that when I started writing my blog I didn’t set up a deadline. You may think, how can I dare to ask you to set a deadline if I didn’t for this project? Well, launching this blog took me almost 4 months after I had the idea and it was because I didn’t set a deadline. I lost not only time but money and inspiration because I never pushed myself to meet a deadline. So go to your kitchen, take a post it and write the date now. Don’t make the same mistake than me.
There is a lot of information available about how to write S.M.A.R.T. goals. (If you don’t have any idea what I am talking about, leave a comment below asking about S.M.A.R.T. goals and I will make sure I write a post about it.) The ‘T’ of S.M.A.R.T. stands for time-based; For example, a mom can start working from home when she is in her 60s, already retired from her job, but our example mom doesn’t want to wait 30 years to reach her goal! She wants to be a working-from-home mom next year, by summer, when schools are closed, and she doesn’t want to hire a full-time babysitter. She wants to share most of the day with her kids next summer, period!
One more thing. Why are you still reading this post? Go to your kitchen and set your deadline now. In the next post, we’ll talk about how you will start every single day with the focus and energy you need to reach your goals.
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